Relationships can be a huge source of healing when they are going well. On the other hand, when difficulty arises, your relationship can also become a source of overwhelming pain. If you are in a place where your relationship is struggling, whether in big or small ways, couples therapy may assist you in moving toward connection. Perhaps you are dealing with sexual issues, communication difficulties, infidelity, life transitions or acute stressors, infertility, or just want to do a “relational check-up.” This is where I can help.

I have seen couples heal from seemingly insurmountable difficulties. I have seen negative patterns dissolve, replaced by patterns of connection and emotional closeness. Through my experiences with couples work, I have come to most commonly use an attachment-based framework. What does this look like in therapy? Let me give you a sneak peek.

Couples therapy will be tailored to your specific needs, however, here’s an outline of typically what could be involved in couple work:

• Understanding your couple dynamics and patterns, specifically around the area you are struggling in. For example, if you’re dealing with sexual difficulties, how each partners’ emotions and behaviors impact the situation

• Learning to communicate and meet one another’s attachment and emotional needs

• Explore and regulate your emotions and in difficult conversations

• Intentionally differentiate yourself from your partner, meaning to strike a balance between closeness and healthy distance

• Building acceptance for aspects of your relationship and partner that cannot change while identifying areas that can

• Turning toward your partner in difficulty rather than away from them

• Rebuilding trust through ownership and vulnerability